Focused sex therapy for men

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I view sexual difficulties as ranging from sexual worries (universal concerns we all have about sex and sexuality), to sexual problems (sexual urges, thoughts and behaviours may feel out of control), to sexual disorders (erectile, orgasm, ejaculatory, or medical disorders). 

Together we will get curious, and through self-examination, figure out the "functions" of these difficulties: the effects they have, or what they achieve, in a particular situation. Then we will come up with a sexual health plan to work towards your aim and goals.  

My work is guided by the principles* of: consent - the right to give & take away at anytime for any reason; non-exploitation - living free from power & control of others; protection - balancing pleasure & safety; shared values - knowing yours & respecting others; honesty - as a choice; & mutual pleasure - individualised & important to communicate. (*Braun-Harvey & Vigorito 2016)

I am a UK, professionally qualified, registered and accredited Psychosexual (Sex) & Relationship Therapist (AccCOSRT). 

Sex | porn addiction it is not an actual diagnosis. Disease classification systems exclude it on scientific grounds. Evidence even suggests that for some men, self-identifying as a sex | porn addict likely increases pain and suffering over time. Compulsive Sexual Behaviour Disorder (CSBD) is included in the World Health Organisation International Classification of Diseases, as an impulse disorder, but CSBD is not an interchangeable term with sex | porn addiction.  

I prefer the term problem sexual behaviours and includes problematic pornography consumption, drug-linked sexual behaviours (chemsex, party-drugs), moral or ethical conflicts over the types of sex (fantasy, BDSM, kink, paying for sex), breaking of relationship boundaries (affairs, infidelity), or resulting legal and financial problems. 

I am a Certified Problem Sexual Behaviour Therapist, offering a more holistic, sexual health approach. So, if your sexual urges, thoughts or behaviours feel out of control, I invite you to connect to hear more about how we could work together.