What we call something matters because its name influences how we treat it. It may surprise you, but sex and porn addiction is not actually recognised as a diagnosis, despite what the media and many therapists say. Disease classification systems exclude it due to insufficient scientific evidence. For some men, self-identifying as a sex or porn addict can lead to increased pain and suffering over time. I use the term problem sexual behaviour and addressing these through psychosexual therapy can be more beneficial for men facing distress or difficulties.
Problem sexual behaviours refer to any urges, thoughts, or actions that feel confusing or out of control. Most often adult, legal, and consensual in nature, these behaviours may simply be a variation of healthy human sexuality, yet they can lead to significant distress for some men and their relationships. My approach utilises psychosexual therapy, integrating evidence-based techniques with a holistic perspective on sexual health, while considering emotional, physical, and relational factors.
Behaviours that may feel out of control are often your brains solution to something else. Together we will figure out the "functions" of your behaviours: the effect it has, or what it achieves, in a particular situation. Then together we will come up with a sexual health plan that you feel good about and in control of.
Sexual difficulties encompass a range of issues, from common worries about sex and sexuality to more severe concerns such as problem sexual behaviours and sexual disorders. These disorders may include challenges like erectile dysfunction, issues with orgasm, ejaculatory problems, or those related to specific health conditions. Psychosexual therapy can be beneficial in addressing these sexual difficulties.
Whether you're facing problem sexual behaviours, experiencing sexual difficulties, or just aiming to better understand your sexuality, I tailor psychosexual therapy sessions to your unique needs, fostering growth and self-awareness. I also work with men who have committed sexual offences online or offline, those who have faced accusations of sexual offending, or individuals who pose a sexual risk through the COFRA 121 rehabilitation programme.
My approach is trauma-informed, drawing upon relevant fields such as evolutionary science, polyvagal theory, and attachment theory. I am trauma-aware, attuned to the possible role of trauma in a wide range of clinical issues, including problem sexual behaviour. Additionally, my practice is trauma-sensitive, alert to the risks of experiential work that can arise in psychosexual therapy and in addressing various sexual difficulties.
Cameron Staley
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